Ngā mihi mahana ki a koutou katoa / Warm greetings to you all,
It was great connecting with many of you at Moana Pool for our Family Fun Day event. I hope those who attended had a great time.
It would be really nice if you and your tamariki could take the time to write a short thank you note to the sponsors of the event. Without them, these fantastic, fun days out would not be possible.
I’m really sorry that we haven’t been able to deliver much training over this term. I’m looking forward to next year when Oranga Tamariki will have their updated training’s ready and available for us to deliver again. In the meantime, if there are issues that you would like some information or support with, please let me know and I will find a local expert who can speak with us.
This time of the year is often a time of reflection. Since joining Fostering Kids NZ this year, I’ve learnt so much; from our therapeutic parenting approach, legal information for caregivers, fetal alcohol effects on tamariki and of course what I have learnt from all of you that I have come in contact with. I look forward to what 2020 brings for us all.
The Christmas season can be a stressful time for all, and we need to be mindful of the tamariki in our care. This may be a time they long to be with their birth family more than ever. There may be memories of birth family gatherings and we know this can either trigger good or not so good memories for them.
Here are some handy tips:
- Encourage access/contact to be a positive time, if they aren’t too anxious, they could do something special for their birth parents/family/whanau (cards, making a little gift etc).
- If you’re going to family celebrations with your own family, make sure there is a gift for your children in care. Your relatives may not think about this.
- Allow the child placed in your care to share positive memories of past Christmas’s.
- Make your own children aware of the potential issues that may occur for children over this time.
- Include children in all activities, make this a positive time for strengthening relationships, connections, attachments and giving them positive experiences.
- Plan fun, fun and more fun. Getting into nature is a grounding, free and soul-filling activity.
- Plan rest, rest and more rest …. Chilled quiet times are so important for both the children and you.
- Realise the behaviour outbursts are not personal, but a reflection of what may be going on for them.
Remember this, although Christmas can be a wonderful time it can also get a bit crazy with lots of commitments and high expectations. Take that extra deep breath, take a longer look at that view, and hold that hand of those you love for slightly longer…. Remember to look after yourself!
I will be taking extended leave over Christmas to spend time with my whanau, so will be away from 22nd December to 17th January.
Fostering Kids NZ National Office will be closed from 24th December to the 6th January. For more information on what to do if you are in need of support during this time, click here.
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Tiaki Koe i a Koe /Take Care of Yourself
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