Kia ora All
Spring is in the air.
One of the focuses of the last couple of months has been the new, trauma informed, National Caregiver Training Programme (NCTP) workshops. These were developed in partnership with Oranga Tamariki and we’re glad to see the latest science around trauma and approaches to caring for children who have experienced this. In particular; the new ‘Understanding & Support Behaviour’ content where we can share understandings that children and young people we care for need a different type of parenting; a parenting framework for supporting children needing to recover from developmental trauma.
Why do we need a different type of day-to-day parenting?
According to Dan Hughes, when children feel scared, alone, abandoned, hurt or hungry early in their life, they have no choice but to find ways or adapt behaviour to help them get through these times by relying on themselves.
The signs of these ways of thinking, feeling and behaving are often seen later when children are older and living in different families. They show up as worrying or challenging behaviours that just don’t seem to make sense and make it hard for parents to know how best to care for children. This is especially so during times when the child’s outward behaviour seems to be saying that they don’t want or need the parent and won’t allow the parent to love them.
Much of traditional day-to-day parenting assumes that the child feels safe at home, trusts their parents and their motives when they have consequences. This traditional parenting also assumes that children learn from consequences, are able to function well with a good degree of independence, and have come to accept their parent’s values, ideals, and goals. When these assumptions don’t work, parenting strategies informed by what we know about developmental trauma and attachment may better connect with the child’s inner world and then to emotional regulation.
In October and November Sally Moffatt and Lorraine will be facilitating our new parenting approach through the LIFT Programme. The LIFT Programme includes the four-day Foundations for Attachment training over four weeks and follow up support service that aligns with all that’s been mentioned above. Call Sally on 0800 693 323 for more information.
Please reach out for support if you are struggling with understanding the behaviours of the children living with you. Call Lorraine on 03 281 7495 / 027 566 0294 or through our national free phone line which will put you through to her on: 0800 693 323.
Kia Kaha, kia manawa nui / take care, stay strong
We have two of our new workshops coming up in the next few weeks. Building Secure Attachments on Wednesday 5 September in Rangiora and Understanding & Supporting Behaviour on Wednesday 12 September in Christchurch. I am really looking forward to running these two workshops as they incorporate all the latest research and practice around trauma informed care. There is only a couple of spaces left on the workshops, so if you are interested please get in quick to ensure you do not miss out on a place. You can register here link. Or contact Christine on freephone 0800 100 849.
These workshops will also include a two hour follow up discussion session 5-6 weeks after the workshop. These discussion sessions are designed to reinforce your learning and to integrate it into you daily caregiving practice.
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