Canterbury News – October 2018

Canterbury RC
Lorraine Murray
03 281 7495 or
027 501 0392

Tēnā koutou katoa/Greetings to you all

Spring is finally here and summer is just around the corner.  Harper Ave is looking stunning with the cherry blossom trees in full bloom.  I hope you are enjoying the warmer weather and all that spring brings!

One of my favourite quotations is:  When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm.  Not join their chaos ~ L. R. Knost.

Children’s feelings are often very intense and they can be quickly taken over by feelings of excitement, frustration, fear or joy.  We can help children to understand that all feelings are normal and even intense emotions come and go.  There are times that we cannot choose these feelings, everyone has them and sometimes everyone may find it difficult to manage their feelings without support.  Help children to notice and name their feelings: happy, sad, angry, frustrated, excited, embarrassed etc.  Naming feelings can sometimes help to make them more manageable.  Understand that a child’s feelings can affect their behaviour and understanding the emotion behind, can help us too, especially in responding to the behaviour.

“The brain is the why and P.A.C.E. is the how…” -Jon Baylin, Ph.D.

 When in doubt…

Playful:           having a light hopeful tone, engaged attitude, being open and spontaneous.

Accepting:      to simply accept a child’s thoughts feelings, or wishes with regard to the situation.

Curiosity:        non-judgmental, active interest, make guesses, but happy to reject the guesses that you make.

Empathy:        felt sense of the other; actively experienced and communicated.

Motivates us to relate to others.



I am really looking forward to the start of the new LIFT Programme that Fostering Kids NZ is offering around the country. This includes the four-day Foundations for Attachment training.

I am also enjoying the new trauma informed, National Caregiver Training Programme (NCTP) workshops.  Please go and have a look at what we are offering next term, we are also offering a Saturday and evening workshop option for those that may not be able to attend daytime workshops.  I would love to see you at one of the trainings.  These workshops are such a wonderful opportunity to gain further knowledge, skills and strategies to help you in your role.  Registrations are required, please register here.   Or if you need any assistance or have any questions, please contact Christine on 0800 100 849.

The workshops are also a wonderful way to meet other caregivers and build up your support networks.  Please also make the use of your support groups, as they are a good way to connect with other caregivers.

Lastly from me, please join the Fostering Kids NZ Canterbury Facebook group, this is a closed page for caregivers only.  Also if you could give me some feedback as to whether you find the things I post of interest or alternatively, what would you like to see posted.

Ngā mihi

Foster Hope

If you are in Christchurch and have a need, please call Ngarie on 03 3562455. The answer machine is always on and if she misses you she will usually get back to you within a couple of days.  Foster Hope do a whole lot!!

Please see

Support Groups

Otautahi Foster Care Association

We were very privileged to have Linda Surtees come to our last meeting and update us all on the changes. There was lots of questions answered during the question and answer time.  It was nice to have some social time over lunch.  I feel very hopeful that things will really improve for Foster Carers when the Care Standards come in – that was my key piece of inspiration.  I believe we will be recognised for the hard work we do daily.

We have a visit scheduled to Arion Farm in the school holidays I am still waiting on the farm to confirm a date. Please keep an eye out on your emails for a date and time.  Last year, we found the children of all ages loved the goat farm. Here’s hoping we will see lambs and other baby animals.

It’s hard to believe we are in the last quarter of the year, I wonder where this year has gone!  I think the last quarter is the most exhausting with much pressure on us with end of year functions.  Make time to sit and relax, take a walk, learn to crochet, it’s all about remaining calm.  Even if only a couple of minutes a day.

If you are interested in being part of a small support group please let us know we may be able to assist you to find the small group that meets your individualised need.

Kia Kaha to all you amazing foster carers. Hope to see many of you at the Arion farm visit in the next few weeks – watch this space.

Kia Kaha Angela,         Email: Or Text 020 4119 6505.

Ashburton Network/Association Group

It has been wonderful to hear the keenness of caregivers in this area to start up a group again. Please contact me as we connect everyone for the first get together – Lorraine

South Canterbury Network/Association Group

All welcome, for details please contact Katrina Merrick 027 416 9708 or

Rangiora OT Caregivers Group 

Hi there

Can you believe it’s nearly the end of term three?

The next caregivers group run by our wonderful Caregiver Social Workers is on the 4th October in the Rangiora office at 10.00am.

I am looking to set up some support groups out this way under the Fostering Kids NZ umbrella.  So let me know what sort of support group you would like.  My email is or you could text me on 0273894020.

Thanks Deb

Christchurch Family Foster Care Association

Please contact Jill (027 474 1927).


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