Canterbury News – February 2020

Canterbury RC
Nicole McLean
03 281 7495 or
027 501 0392

Ngā mihi mahana ki a koutou katoa / Warm greetings to you all

New Year, new opportunities, new challenges!  The start of the year always brings hope and anticipation doesn’t it?, And sometimes a big sigh of relief that we got through the last one…

Over the Christmas break many of the children in our care may have experienced a variety of big feelings and actions.  Take heart – you’re not alone in this! When we notice and accept how we feel, we then can notice and reflect on how things must feel for them (especially over Christmas), we begin to see things in a different light…

Below is a pledge written by Dan Hughes; a beautiful thought as we begin another year.

The Attachment Pledge Dan Hughes, Ph.D.

I will strive to help you……………………………………………………………………………………. to feel safe here
I will discover ……………………………………………………………………………………. what is unique about you
I will relate to you with PACE …………………………… Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, Empathy
I will discover your ………………………………………………………………………… strengths & vulnerabilities
I will listen to you very hard …………………………………………………. to understand your experience
I will give you what you need …………………………………………………………………. for safety & success
I will remember …………………………………………………………………… that you often feel fear & shame
I will never leave you ……………………………………………………………………….. when you are in distress
I will not …………………………………………………………………………………….. forget you when we are apart
I will love & accept you ………………………………………….. especially when I address your behaviour
I will remember ……………………………. why you argue with me, ignore me, and do not trust me
I will help you to discover ……………………………………. what you and I both think, feel, and want
I will teach you ……………………………… by sharing my experience of you & the world with you
I will always remember ……………….. that attachment relationships are very important to you
I will be very clear ………………… in telling you what is happening & what is going to happen
I will provide you ………………. with routines & rituals that you will become comfortable with
I will care for myself …………………………………………………. so that I am better able to care for you
I will discover the song that is in your heart ……………………………………………… And sing it to you when you forget it

Children’s Day: Sunday 1st March 2020

Children’s Day is celebrated on the first Sunday of March so this year it is 1st March. I will let you know when events have been finalised, so keep an eye on our Facebook page. Meanwhile, see the link below of events organised in our region. This will keep getting updated as events are registered, so keep checking closer to beginning of March too.

Foster Care Awareness Week: 1st – 7th March 2020

Foster Care Awareness Week is on the first week of March, so keep an eye on Facebook for any announcements of upcoming event/s to celebrate foster caregivers both whanau and non-kin. So far we have a few events planned including “Hollywood Theatre” in Christchurch on March 6 at 6pm (book childcare now and make it a date!), PLUS Bunnings DIY, giveaways and more. Watch this space!

Excellence in Foster Care Awards: Friday 6th March 2020

To round out Foster Care Awareness Week, we will be celebrating the winners of the Excellence in Foster Care Awards! This year it will be held in Wellington. These amazing recipients will be announced closer to the date.

One-off School Start Up Fund

School and year start up fund applications are open until the 28th February for those receiving the Unsupported Child’s Benefit or the Orphans’ Benefit. Make sure you apply for this one-off grant of between $400 – $550 (depending on the child’s age). Click on button below to find out more.

Self-care

Self-care is important at any time of the year. Often the transition back into the school term is a challenging time for us as our tamariki adapt back into routines. Their internal fears of new teachers, new classrooms, new friends and new expectations can create turmoil that is expressed through behaviour. Acceptance and empathetic environments are the most effective ways to a stress-free beginning to the school day. Parenting tamariki with special needs, developmental trauma and/ or challenging behaviour is undeniably stressful. If you get a chance to read our article, then please take it. If you don’t get a chance, try and create an opportunity to do so as sometimes we just have to stop, make a cuppa and do something for ourselves.

A note from our local Board Member

Hi my name is Angela Swinney, I was newly elected to the Fostering Kids New Zealand Board at the recent conference held in Auckland. I am honoured to represent you and the collective needs of caregivers. I have been a caregiver for 23 years caring for my nieces until they left home, and a few other children. Currently I care for a teenager. Caregiving is a challenging role and I am inspired by all that you do daily to provide the best possible care to the children / young people you embrace.
I am the Chair of Otautahi Foster Care Association which hosts several events during the term for adults and holidays for families. Everyone is most welcome to attend. 
I am looking forward to meeting you during events or feel free to email me:  angelaswinney2000@nullgmail.com

Yours in Fostering,
Angela Swinney

Upcoming Events

Christchurch: Grandparenting in 2020
Canterbury Worker’s Educational Association, 59 Gloucester Street, Christchurch
Thursday 20 February 2020, 12:30pm – 2:00pm

Rolleston: Drive in movie – The Secret Life of Pets 2
Rolleston Reserve, Tennyson St, Rolleston, Selwyn
Friday 28 February 2020, 7:00pm – 9:00pm

Engage Your Brain
Timaru Girls’ High School
Tuesday 25 February 2020, 7.30pm – 9.00pm
Tickets available through eventfinda.co.nz

Training

Our Term One training schedule is now live! We are very excited to introduce a new 3 hour Workshop Discussion Session – Understanding the National Care Standards. Click the button below to find out more and to register.

Have you joined our closed Facebook Group?

As a member of Fostering Kids NZ you have exclusive access to our CLOSED Facebook groups. These are only open to caregivers that are members of Fostering Kids NZ. This allows our members a platform to seek support, information and resources.  If you are not already a member search Fostering Kids NZ Canterbury Support and request to join.  It’s easy and it’s free!

Click the link below to join!

Fostering Kids NZ Canterbury Support Closed Facebook Group

I’m sure many of you have dreams and goals for 2020, and I wish you every success!

Hei konā mai,
Nicole

  

Home for Life Caregiver study.

Home for Life Caregivers are wanted to participate in a study of their experiences and opinions as a Home for Life caregiver, by Georgia King (Master of Child and Family Psychology student) as a thesis for her master’s degree.

This study is an opportunity for you to reflect on your experiences and perceptions of the Home for Life parenting order. Understanding how well this scheme works is an important social policy issue. However, there has been very little research carried out on it to date!

Participation in the study would involve having a face-to-face interview, as a couple, or individually, in a private office at the University of Canterbury or at your home.

If you are interested please contact me via email, phone, or through the Facebook group I have created to arrange an interview and ask any questions. You will be provided with an information sheet and consent form to read.

Phone: 0272962699, Email: georgia.king@nullpg.canterbury.ac.nz

If you wish to access the information sheet and consent form via Facebook, please request to join the group titled “A study of caregivers’ experiences of New Zealand’s Home for Life policy.”

I look forward to hearing from you – Georgia King


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